Archive for December, 2005
Yes, apparently that is what I am. I’ve known this for a long time, since I have taken the full version of the Myers-Briggs three times, and I take shorter versions from time to time out of curiosity. When I was younger I tested more as an INTP. I guess old age has made me more judgemental and set in my ways.
I found a new version of this test at a site called OKCupid!, which seems to be a dating site but this test was linked from someone’s LiveJournal (I read House fanfic. So sue me). It’s 70 questions, which is long enough to give a good result, and my statistics were in line with the longer tests I’ve taken.
If you’re interested in this personality typing method, I highly recommend the books Please Understand Me and Please Understand Me II by David Kiersey and Marilyn Bates. Their method is called the Kiersey-Bates Temperament Sorter, which is based around the Myers-Briggs principles. Finding out which type you are, and which types your family and friends are, will help you to understand those people you just don’t grok, and where they are coming from.
If you know an NT, you probably think you understand them but suspect that you really don’t. The latter would be true. NTs are a strange breed. We understand each other, but other people often see us as unfeeling, cold, even cruel individuals who have a peculiar obsession with things being right and fair. Actually, we are very deeply emotional, and sensitive to the emotions of others. The difference is that we don’t show it, and consciously try to avoid letting it influence rational decisions, because we know that emotions are not always a good guide to doing the right thing.
The “cruelty” people perceive is something we consider to be simple candor, or honesty. We are likely to be blunt, even with uncomfortable subjects, because we believe that is the right thing to do. We mean what we say, and we say what we mean. There usually isn’t any hidden meaning to our words and actions.
We are not interested in leadership, but we will take control of something if we believe it is being done incorrectly. We “step up to the plate” as required, but seldom lust for power. It simply doesn’t interest us. We’re not interested in “winning” arguments or conflicts with others. We are interested in the truth, in making things work, in solving problems. Who gets the credit is less important than finding the solution. If we argue with you, it’s not because we have to be right and you have to be wrong. It’s because we believe what we are saying is true, and denial of the truth — denial of reality — is something we find both frustrating and bewildering. You may be surprised to find we are open to changing our minds if you present new information, or a perspective that is new to us.
In case you’re wondering, my husband Kyle is also an INTJ, which probably explains why we got married. NTs often have problems being compatible with other types. INTJs are 1% of the population. That, combined with the fact that I have the second-rarest blood type (B-negative), makes me feel special. 🙂
[Kyle adds]: The Christmas after Keirsey’s Please Understand Me II was released, I gave Anne a copy as a gift. Totally independently, she also gave me a copy as a gift. I’m not sure what two people gifting each other with books on personality typology says about mutual compatibility, but it was pretty damn funny at the time. Ironically, since then we have somehow managed to lose both copies of the book. Which is a bummer, since I liked it and wish I still had a copy.